Yeah, when this first ran, people took Cooper’s side, calling Val out for passive-aggressively (passively-aggressive? IDK) manipulating him. Better approach would’ve been: “My dad is in town, and I think I should tell him the truth about my income. Could you come with? I would really appreciate if you did, but if not, I get it. I know it’s not the most ideal circumstance for you to first meet either of my parents.” And then take “no” for an answer. Certainly beats guilt-tripping.
Val handled this wrong. Rather than springing this on Cooper and expecting him to come with no notice, she ought to have told him about meeting her father and why, then said, “I know it’s short notice Cooper but I really would like it if you came with me. I’ll understand if you say no.” Then don’t get angry if he does. I really hate it when people spring things on me with no warning.
It was an argument. It doesn’t matter who won, you both lost.
No, Coop is looking like the loser here. In more ways than one.
Val sprang this on him with no warning! How did she think it was going to go?!
Yeah, when this first ran, people took Cooper’s side, calling Val out for passive-aggressively (passively-aggressive? IDK) manipulating him. Better approach would’ve been: “My dad is in town, and I think I should tell him the truth about my income. Could you come with? I would really appreciate if you did, but if not, I get it. I know it’s not the most ideal circumstance for you to first meet either of my parents.” And then take “no” for an answer. Certainly beats guilt-tripping.
Val handled this wrong. Rather than springing this on Cooper and expecting him to come with no notice, she ought to have told him about meeting her father and why, then said, “I know it’s short notice Cooper but I really would like it if you came with me. I’ll understand if you say no.” Then don’t get angry if he does. I really hate it when people spring things on me with no warning.